YOU Are the Problem! A No-Bullshit Guide to Radical Sovereignty for Women Who Are Done Performing

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You are the problem.

Not because you’re broken. Not because you’re not trying hard enough. But because you’ve been outsourcing your life to everyone else—and calling it wisdom.

For years, I sat in that church pew and performed. Performed faith. Performed obedience. Performed the version of myself that made everyone else comfortable. I stayed in a career that was killing me because I’d been told stable employment was responsible. I said yes when I meant no because I’d been conditioned to believe that boundaries were selfish.

And then one Sunday, I heard a pastor tell his struggling congregation that God would orchestrate their suffering—their poverty, their hardship—to extract tithes from them.

I couldn’t look away anymore.

YOU ARE THE PROBLEM chronicles my journey from golden child of the evangelical church to sovereign author of my own life. Through eleven thresholds—noticing, admission, permission, discomfort, aloneness, grief, unbecoming, refusal, trust, authorship, and becoming—I share the cost of claiming your authority and what daily sovereignty actually looks like.

Inside, you’ll find:

– The moment I realized I’d been the author of my own cage

– What happened when church people disappeared and my absent father showed up

– The stillbirth that became the catalyst for everything

– Learning to trust my inner knowing over everyone’s advice

– What it costs to choose yourself (spoiler: you lose people, and it’s worth it)

– Practical tools for navigating thresholds

– Honest answers to the questions you’re asking right now

PLUS: What sovereignty actually looks like day-to-day (not Instagram perfect, real life messy)

This book is for you if:

✓ You’re leaving or have left evangelical/fundamentalist Christianity

✓ You’re waking up to decades of people-pleasing and performance

✓ You’re done with self-help books that comfort instead of confront

✓ You’re ready to hear ‘you’re the problem’ as liberation, not condemnation

✓ You want a mirror, not a motivational speaker

This book is NOT for you if:

✗ You want step-by-step instructions and worksheets

✗ You need comfort and reassurance

✗ You’re not ready to hear you’re complicit in your own cage

✗ You want someone to rescue you or tell you what to do

This is not self-help. This is not therapy. This is a mirror.

What you do with what you see is your business.